A quick post for you at a busy time of the year.
I have been treating an older couple for a number of years, who have taught me so much about growing wiser with the passing years. Often in the therapeutic world we are taught that we need the teach our patients all about ‘leading and pacing’, but I have often found that for most people with long term pain, it just makes them feel worse to be told this, slightly patronizing and limiting .
Well my wise older couple don’t pace and lead. Insead they have what they call a ‘buffer day’ – these days are for regrouping and relaxing, catching up on anything that’s been neglected recently, to make themselves more ready for the other things in life which make them smile, whether that’s a longer walk, trip shopping, or off on an aeroplane to some sunshine. I have shared the buffer day theory with many of my patients, who totally take it on board; it has stopped them trying to cram too much in, as they plan in their buffer day rather than crashing or burning out. They find it empowering and has helped them manage their pain states much better – I hope it helps you too.