Who inspires you?

I have just finished making my way through Jenni Murray’s A History of Britain in 21 Women, a rather fitting read given the fact that incredible women are dominating our news currently, moving and shaking a sadly still unequal world.

Murray chooses twenty one women who changed the world with their extraordinary achievements.

The first two in the book are Boadicea and Queen Elizabeth, which made me smile as these women were my inspiration as a 10 – 12 year old young girl.  They had determination in spite of life’s circumstances, and they stood for what they believed in, in spite of what would have been easier for them.  They dug deep within themselves so that even when people around them chose not to believe in them, there they were anyway, standing strong and staying true to what they believed in.

The women in Jenni Murray’s book were ‘change makers’ and the thing they all have in common is that none of it came easy – but they knew it was their right to be full and true versions of themselves. I always wanted that for myself, so I modelled those qualities – in many ways I pretended that I was who I wanted to be already, which made me believe it could come true.

When studying with Judith Lowe on a NLP Practitioner Course, I realized that I have used ‘modelling’ all my life. In Joseph O’Connor & John Seymour’s book Introducing NLP, they say ‘Modelling can be simply defined as the process of replicating human excellence’. They go on further to state ‘By using our mind and body in the same way as a peak performer, we can immediately increase the quality of our actions and our results.  NLP models what is possible because real human beings have actually done it’.

Modelling is a way of practicing success by imagining it; by holding it in your mind’s eye, it becomes so much easier to reach your aims and achieve what you want. Life is to be lived, and being brave in the face of long-term pain or a sport injury that stops you from reaching your pinnacle isn’t always easy.

We often ask people when they visit the practice ‘Who inspires you’?  Could you imagine those qualities in yourself? Sometimes, if this feels too difficult, we ask simply what makes you feel good? Can you ‘dance it out’ to lift your mood, or walk your dog, listen to music? Next time it feels your doubts are defeating you, have a go at imagining how brilliant and brave you actually are – start by making one step on the right direction.

We can all get to where we want to be with the right kind of support, and that’s what we aim to give at Flexible Healing.



Taking a ‘buffer day’

A quick post for you at a busy time of the year.

I have been treating an older couple for a number of years, who have taught me so much about growing wiser with the passing years. Often in the therapeutic world we are taught that we need the teach our patients all about ‘leading and pacing’, but I have often found that for most people with long term pain, it just makes them feel worse to be told this, slightly patronizing and limiting .

Well my wise older couple don’t pace and lead. Insead they have what they call a ‘buffer day’ – these days are for regrouping and relaxing, catching up on anything that’s been neglected recently, to make themselves more ready for the other things in life which make them smile, whether that’s a longer walk, trip shopping, or off on an aeroplane to some sunshine. I have shared the buffer day theory with many of my patients, who totally take it on board; it has stopped them trying to cram too much in, as they plan in their buffer day rather than crashing or burning out. They find it empowering and has helped them manage their pain states much better – I hope it helps you too.


Leaning into the ‘pause’

Autumn, I truly enjoy the changing leaves, the rich colour that comes, so varied in shade, I love just this time ofyear. For me it brings reflection, reminds me that nothing is set in stone. There is always the possibility that nothing has to stay the same, we can be inspired to be brave. It’s also nature’s way demonstrating renewal and rest.

We find in the practice that the hardest challenge for most people is the take a moment for themselves, checking in with ‘efforting’, inner dialogue of ‘well I just have to’ and ‘I don’t like to so no’ even if they are tired over worked. What stops us from just ‘taking a pause’ this could be just a little sit down with a cuppa, and tune into your own breathing, or in a window space and view the world whatever that is. Giving time for gathering, reflection. We have read this spring   Shondra Rhimes , ‘A Year of Saying Yes’,  https://www.amazon.co.uk/Year-Yes-Dance-Stand-Person

We have been recommending the chapter on saying YES! to saying NO!, Shondra invites us always ask ‘is this good for me’. So in this season of change and chance, we can be brave, step a toe into putting ourselves first. As we are kinder to ourselves,  we often find we have the energy to give to others without it feeling draining, or feeling resentful both can be unhelpful to our nervous system.

Enjoy moving :-)

It was 5 years since seeking help form Claire Sparrow, Polestar Pilates instructor, owner of Chapel Allerton Pilates, a year since teaching my own classes.

As a child I always enjoyed moving, I enjoyed how it felt getting out of breath and recovery from that, I loved the walk to the top of the hill for the view, walking through fallen leaves, sledging and my favourite was my wooden surf body board. However when it came to competitive sport lots of enthusiasm on my part, but poor hand coordination left me always the last one to be picked in teams sports, and hearing  from teachers when frustrated with other children not been jolly at games,  ‘look even Susan Middleton is trying’, . I won’t pretend there hasn’t been dark days when I just wanted to be best at something!!

As an adult I still love the feeling movement gives me, a walk on the Chevin (local beauty spot). Climbing the hill just for the view, cycling along a sea side estuary. My amazing time with Claire who challenges my beliefs about my perception of my body. Encouraging me to take steps that might not have always happened. The results are far reaching, I stand taller than I ever have, new energy, and a renewed joy within myself, deep pleasure at feeling stronger to climb a hill, to paddle a boat, and just to breathe easier.

Then I get to share this with people I teach in my classes, it has been a profound privilege to watch peoples trust in me, seeing them move freer, losing some of their fear about moving, seeing them stand taller and smiling.

As a practice we offer Hendrickson Method, Physiotherapy, soft tissue mobilisation, all great technique’s to help us out of pain and injuries, all made more successful with movement, which could be a gentle walk, a gentle swim, Pilates, yoga, cycling, walking your dog, dancing it out in your front room to your favourite dance tack on your own (a secret special one of mine) just so it make you smile on the inside.